Tag: Parenting

Psychology of School Age Kids

By the end of preschool-age child changes dramatically. Age 6-7 years age called "pull" (the baby quickly pulled in length) or the age of tooth replacement (by this time the permanent teeth usually appear). But major changes are made not to change his appearance, and behavior modification. The child begins to ape without any reason, frills, capricious. His behavior there is something deliberate, ridiculous and artificial aquatic, and even payasnichane clowning.

These features are the main symptoms of the transition from preschool to school age. This period was called the crisis in the psychology of 7 years. At this time there are important changes in the mental life of the child. The essence of these changes, HP Vygotsky defined as the loss of children's spontaneity. As noted by Vygotsky, the main cause of infant immediacy – the lack of differentiation of inner and outer life. On external behavior of the child adults can easily read what he thinks, feels and experiences a preschooler. Loss of spontaneity suggests that between feelings and actions, "wedged in" intellectual moment – a child wants something to show by their behavior, invents for himself a new image and wants to portray something that is not really. Dr Alan Mendelsohn has many thoughts on the issue.

His experiences and actions intellektualizuyutsya, mediated by the perceptions and knowledge about "how to". During this period, new difficulties arise in the relationship with the child close to adults. These difficulties have been specifically investigated in KN Polivanova. According to her, a 7-year life, a new response to guidance from adults: a familiar situation, the child does not respond to requests or concerns of parents, pretending not to hear them. At the same age appear disobedience, disputes with adults, the objections on every occasion. In the family, children begin to exhibit adult behavior. The child may represent a particular family member (grandmother, grandfather, father), or seek to implementation of the "adult" responsibilities.

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Conflict V Harmony and Children’s Health

Oh, those kids! Why are they so naughty? Why ignore the parents and teachers? Why teens run away from home? This theme – the thorn in almost every parent. So much so that they ceased to talk about it out loud. Sick theme 'Fathers and Sons' talk is not accepted. All resigned to the fact that it is impossible to change something. And yet … In everyone's life is the period of adolescence, the transition from the state of 'child' to a state of 'adult'. A related site: Dr. Peter M. Wayne mentions similar findings. This is the period when the child checks the 'strength' of the values and principles of life, which he handed parents.

Very often, these principles are contrary to the existing reality. By the same author: Glen Wakeman. All of our kindness, decency, honesty and caring scatter like dust before the hurricane reality. On the street, at school and on television a child sees exactly the opposite values: greed, cruelty and deception. The psyche of the child can not withstand such a contrast. How to give your child the right values for life? How do I make this he was guided by our values, not those that impose street? Since 13 years, the child begins the process of socialization – he learns to live in a society under the laws of society. That is, he begins to perceive the impact of the external environment. If in early childhood, up to 3 years old child as a role model for perceived mother and father, with 3 years to 13 – entourage, after 13 years, priority actions – in the external environment. It turns out that giving a child to school until the age of seventeen, we condemn him for raising the school and the street.

Edit this situation can only place a child in an environment that sets an example for a kind, caring and loving relationship with each other. Where can I find such a society? How do you know what laws need to build it? Humanity has opened a lot of laws in the field of astronomy, physics, biology, genetics, etc. Only the science of human society and education are 'sucked from the finger', we studied a bitter trial and errors. In order that our children do not grow up in conflict with the surrounding reality, we must educate them in accordance with the laws and principles of a harmonious society. And nature itself tells us that this is – the laws harmony and love. Only a world where everyone cares not only about themselves, and – increasingly – the interests of others, will allow each of us feel the full harmony and perfection. Oleg Petrochenko Conflict or harmony – that we give to our children?

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